Saturday, October 27, 2007

Anniversary Fun!

Friday and Saturday were so much fun! Ursula and I had a blast. Here's what we did...

10:00am - We stalked... I mean watched FC Dallas practice at Pizza Hut Park. I read on the FC Dallas blog that they'd be practicing at 10:00am. However, they didn't get started until about 11:15am. It was fun watching them park their cars and then go into the stadium. We saw a lot of the players arriving such as... Juan Toja, Alex Yi, Denilson, Adrian Serioux, Dario Sala and others. It took them awhile to get changed and start practicing. We didn't watch them practice for too long as Ursula was nervous that they'd think we were up to no good. We do look pretty suspicious!

1:35pm - We watched Tyler Perry's - Why Did I Get Married? It was a very good movie. We both enjoyed it. While at the movies, we saw Pastor Gerald and Ms. Geni. They are such an awesome couple! I love how she greeted us, "Hi Kids!" We had to compare movie ticket stubs to see what each other saw. They saw "Dan in Real Life" and they said it was better than the previews.

7:00pm - Dinner at Randy's Steakhouse. It was good, but not great. The service was very good, but the food itself could have been better. We're just not the type to say "Hey, it would be nice to taste some crab in the crab cakes!"

9:00pm - After making a quick stop at DSW Shoes, we checked into Embassy Suites. The room or suite was great! After getting settled in, we had a knock at the door... the hotel actually gave us a bottle of champagne for FREE in celebration of our wedding anniversary. This came to me as a complete surprise! A complete surprise since the hotel room was free since I used my Hilton Points. We had a free movie and free breakfast as well.


8:00am - Nice casual wake-up. Check out the view from our room on the 10th floor. If there was a game going on for the Frisco Roughriders, we'd be able to watch from our balcony.

9:15am - Breakfast down in the atrium of the hotel. Wonderful made to order breakfast. I don't get omelettes too often, but I did this morning - ham, cheese, and mushrooms. Yummy!

**** Now for the awesome part of the day/weekend...

While we were having breakfast, we saw a couple of FC Dallas players. I didn't really know them, but I knew they were players. Then after a little bit, a familiar face came in... Kenny Cooper. I love this player. He always looks like he's having a lot of fun when he's playing. I told Ursula that I wanted to talk to him and get a picture. She, of course, thought I was crazy. But, I did approach him and got a picture of him with my camera phone as you see below. He was very nice. We talked about him being healthy again and the playoff game for tonight. We wished him luck for the game against Houston and we walked away on cloud nine! By the way, FC Dallas will stay at a local hotel for big games, such as the US Cup and now the MLS Cup Playoffs.

12:30/1:00pm - Briana and Cairo's soccer games. Briana had a rough one losing 7-2. She played hard and well. She played all 70 minutes as Left Defender except for about 5 minutes where she played midfielder in the last 5 minutes of the first half. The fun part was that she scored a goal off of a penalty kick in the last few minutes of the game. Cairo played hard and well during his game as well. He played his rival team and beat them 5-4. His team is now in sole possession of first place. I'm proud of both of them of how hard they play on the soccer field.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

17 Years

I'm probably late with this post as Sunday was officially our 17th Wedding Anniversary, however, we're celebrating this coming up Friday. Plans for Friday... Dinner at Randy's Steakhouse in Frisco. Movies - Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married. Evening Accomodations - Embassy Suites in Frisco. Sorry... no room number will be posted!

I'm so glad that Ursula said those two magic words 17 years ago, "I do." I cannot imagine anyone bringing me more happiness and love throughout all of those years. I always tell her this and I hope she believes me... she's my comfort! She brings me comfort and peace that no other person can humanly provide.

There's a song by Robin Thicke called "Lost Without You" that has the perfect lyrics... "Baby, you're the perfect shape. Baby, you're the perfect way!" Ursula was made for me in so many ways. Thank you, God!
For entertainment purposes only, here are some pictures from that blur of a day.

I love making her smile! She has the same wonderful smile after all these years with me!

The List

Denise, my crazy "running" sister pointed out that I should have posted the list of "What Wives Need from Husbdands" back in my original post. So, to comply with my sister's request... here's what Pastor Jesse had to say on that topic:

First what God has to say...
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

What Wives Need From Husbands

A. Non-Sexual Affection
1. Husbands must learn to give their wives affection without Sexual motives.
2. When a husband shows his wife this kind of affection it sends the following messages:
- I'll take care of you and protect you.
- You are important to me and I don't want anything to happen to you.
- I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you.
3. Non-sexual affection between husbands and wives will also help children to feel safe and secure.

B. Security - It's More Than Finances
1. He must communicate that he cares for his wife above anyone or anything except God.
2. A husband must communicate his admiration and love for his wife.
3. A husband must communicate his faithfulness.
4. A husband must communicate his dedication to provide financially.

C. Open Communication
1. Every husband needs to accept the fact that communications is a bona fide need of his wife, not merely a want.
2. Every husband must understand that lack of communication breeds insecurity and frustration.
3. It takes time to communicate. A goal is 10 to 15 hours a week for husbands and wives to talk with each other.

D. Leadership - Commintment to Family
1. Husbands are to be the Spiritual Leader.
2. Husbands should be involved in every area of the family.

Wow! I needed that... I'm glad I typed these up. I now have 10 to 15 hours of communication to catch up with Ursula. Just kiddin'... just 9 to 14 hours.

Keep doing all that you can do to keep loving that precious gift from God - your wife!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007


This video has been out on YouTube for over 8 months, but it's timeless! The video moved me the first time I watched and every time after that.

After seeing the video, I had to go out to iTunes and purchase Lifesong's song Everything. Everytime I hear the song on my iPod, I cannot but think of what God thinks of me! He yearns for me to be in his arms! There are several other skits that have been performed based off this skit. To locate them, just search on Lifesong and Everything in YouTube.

God truly loves you!

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

The Study of Your Wife

In my first post, I mentioned my friend Pastor Jesse and his Life Group that he leads for married couples. I remember one class some time ago. It's been probably been a few years now, but it sticks in my head. A class member, Randy, shared with the class something very important about loving his wife. He said that to truly please her, he had to first know her and study her. Since her name is Nitra, he called this Nitraology! Very cool!

When you get right down to it, how much time do we spend on studying things we enjoy? Some things we throw ourselves in way too deep such as golf, fantasy football, cars, {insert your passion here}, etc. God commands us to "... love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" Ephesians 5:25. That's a pretty tall order, as we know how much he loves us! When we love something or in this case someone, we have to know that person. Study how that person needs to be both loved and what their passsions are. I challenge you to put more time into studying that special someone!

In this blog, I'm going to be sharing my favorite books... so here comes my first recommendation... "For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women" by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn. It's a great book that attempts to fill us in about this wonderful gift from God, our wives. It really does a great job of trying to explain what's going on in their heads. Also, it let's us know how they need to be cared for. I recommend this book for all husbands!

Besides reading "For Men Only", you still have your work cut out for you. First, if you don't know what she enjoys, FIND OUT! Secondly, once you have this knowledge, use it. Use it to please her. Here are some examples of how I use Ursulaology...

  • I know the TV shows and sports that Ursula enjoys. I might not particulary enjoy them as much as her, but I know that it please her that I'm there with her.
  • She likes it when I make sure there's gas in the car and especially if there's air in the tires. I don't know how she does it, but I believe she's a human air pressure gauge.
  • I know that she relaxes so much better if there's less clutter in the house. When I can and when God pushes me off the couch, I'll straighten up, vaccum and do the dishes. I love to see the smile on her face!
  • There's plenty more, but you need to find out those special needs of your wife!
Alot of this all sounds so easy, however, for me it's a God thing! When it comes down to it, I'd rather vedge out in front of the TV and have "Me Time 24/7". But, there's that commandment from God to love my wife. After all, it's all about pleasing God. I know that when I do the right thing, he's pleased with me.
Also, it's a choice... a conscious effort that we have to make each and every day. The great thing is that when we succeed in choosing this choice, everyone wins! God is pleased! Your wife is pleased! Our sons will learn how to love their future wives and our daughters will learn how they should be loved. Pssssttt... the really cool part is you never know what goodness is going to be coming your way by pleasing your wife.

Blessings to you with your ____ology! I plan to get a PhD in Ursulaology!

Sunday, October 7, 2007

Hello World!

Hello World!

Mark Lindsley here! I've watched so many of my friends working the blog world, that I thought I'd dip my toe in. Why? I think I have some thoughts and ramblings to share. Also, as of late, I've been inspired. Inspired by two special people in my life, my sister, Denise and my friend, Pastor Jesse.

First of all, my sister, Denise defies my comprehension! My mild mannered sister is a marathon runner! She is not shooting for first place, but for the finish line. (at least that's what I think) I would have never thought that Denise would have been a marathon runner. Debbie, the oldest of us Lindsleys, has been the one blessed with the athletic and competitive genes. I got the competitive gene, but Denise must have stole the athletic gene from me. Anyway, Denise inspires me by her drive and love of running. It's not natural for me to say those two words in the same sentence - "love" and "running". I asked her why she likes or loves to run... she says the she likes to eat! Good answer! She recently ran in the Akron Marathon and here's a picture of her finishing. I think she ran the half marathon event. That sounds shorter, but I get queezy thinking about running a half mile. When I need to be inspired, I call her... I love to hear her excitement for not only running, but for her family! She rocks! Yes, my two other sisters are awesome, but we'll brag on them later. I'm so excited that Denise will be coming to Dallas for the White Rock Marathon in December. I only get to see my family once or twice a year so it's always a special occasion when we can catch up.

Secondly, Pastor Jesse Daniel, inspired me this morning with his discussions of what wives need from husbands. It was great to hear what other husbands were doing for their wives. I feel like I'm doing a pretty job in this role, but I know I can always do better. This is something that I think I can share with others. What I do for my wife or try to do and what I've learned from others. Pastor Jesse leads our Life Group called Marriage Unlimited at Grace Outreach Center.

So... I'm planning on sharing the following on this blog...
  • My love for God
  • My love for my family
  • My love for my job and calling
  • For husbands: How to love your wife (tips from someone that's trying to do it right for 17 years)
  • For fathers: How to love your children
  • Additional ramblings:
God only knows!

If you've made it this far in this posting, congrats and thanks. Nonetheless, I look forward to sharing with you and hearing your comments.